Be Brave Enough To Change Your Mind! Life Will Never Be Right The First Time
Oct 26, 2021
You continue to learn as you move forward. So don’t be afraid to change your mind! Listen to this episode as Yanet Borrego explains why you need to embrace the idea that things will not be perfect. You’ll fail and try new things as long as you’re alive. Yanet shares her personal experiences of how she learned to be comfortable in changing her mind. In the end, she became more calm and content. Tune in!
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Be Brave Enough To Change Your Mind! Life Will Never Be Right The First Time
This is episode number five. We are going to talk about being comfortable with changing your mind, with pivoting, with experimenting. This is very important because as I’ve mentioned before, life is not a straight line. Life is a journey of experimentation. A journey that you continuously learn as you are walking your path. As you do that, it is important to know that it is okay to change your mind. I used to feel comfortable with that concept. I used to feel that because I said one thing or because I studied these for years, this is what I was supposed to do. One of my core values is integrity. It is like, “Do as you say.” I feel that was one of the things why it made it harder on me to even understand that.
I always aspire to be someone that if I tell my clients, “Wake up earlier and be more productive,” that’s one of many techniques you can implement. I’ve got to be the first one to wake up earlier and be productive. It’s funny because my boyfriend, we’ve been together for a few years. He is very comfortable with changing his mind. He has been one of the inspirations why I also say that it’s okay. This doesn’t mean changing your mind every second consistently. It can be a pattern on the other way. Not on the way I’m talking about.
I’m talking about, for example, I’ve mentioned before that I studied Chemical Engineering for five years. There were a lot of internships in corporate. There was a moment in my life that I thought because I had studied that and because that’s what I knew, that’s what I needed to do for the rest of my life. That’s what I needed to retire from working as a chemical engineer. With time and getting to know myself, I realized that was not it. It wasn’t easy to tell people I didn’t want to practice or do chemical engineering because it’s a highly respected job and my ego was hurt. It was like breaking up with my previous identity. As you know, that is not comfortable.
I realized at the same time that it was important to embrace what I wanted to become. It was okay to change my mind. It was okay to say, “I did it. I tried it,” because one of the things that is important is to try it and experiment with it. If you try it and it didn’t work, or you gain more information about yourself that doesn’t align with you, give yourself permission to walk away from that or even pivot in a direction that makes sense more. It makes more sense with you and the person that you want and the person that you are.
That was one of the pivotal moments that allowed me to gain that understanding that it is okay as we gain more information, that we make more decisions that align more with who we are as people. Going back to my story. My boyfriend changes his mind a lot of what he wants to eat. I always joke with him and say, “Thank God you haven’t changed your mind about me,” which is a good thing. He changes his mind a lot about stuff.
It is funny because as I was preparing for my show to record all these videos, one of the problems I was having in this room was with echo. Maybe I still have it but less. I purchased this decoration that absorbed sounds. I wanted to purchase something that would help me because now, in this room, everything is solid, with the walls and there is no carpet. There is no way that the sound gets absorbed. I purchased a carpet. I purchased these things on the walls with color. This is to help with the echo. It was funny because I designed it myself from the internet like these patterns. When I put it up, I didn’t like it. I spent like one hour trying to put all the pieces together.
I have an example of the pattern here. These are the patterns that I initially created. For those in the show, it was a very random magical pattern that I created with four different colors. When I put it up, I’m like, “No.” Cody immediately agreed. He’s like, “That doesn’t look great.” I was like, “These aren’t great. I feel I need to change it.” I changed it four different times until I got to one that I felt good about it, which is the one I have here. I have a piece of this. It was okay to change my mind because I discovered something that I didn’t like anymore. I liked something more with a different pattern.
Another example that I had with changing my mind is building my website. By the way, I have never built a whole website in my life. That was a skill that I had to learn. I did it because I wanted that mental challenge of learning something new, and it was fun. When I started building my website, I started in Squarespace. I was like, “Cool, there’s a lot to learn.” I started learning all the skills, all the details. It’s not super hard and it still requires some learning time. I started building it. I think I had spent maybe 3, 4 hours building it.
Be comfortable with experimenting because it is only through experimentation and taking action that you'll get clarity.
I learned about a new platform that I became interested in. This platform was called Kajabi. It’s a centralized platform where you can have your website, you can hold your podcasts, send your newsletter. To me, that sounded like a dream. Everything is in one place. I don’t have to pay twenty different subscriptions so I can have my newsletter, my website, my podcast. I can have everything in one place. I was like, “I had spent 4 or 5 hours in Squarespace. Scratch that. Done. I’m going to transfer to Kajabi.”
I started again. I did it in Kajabi. I finished it. I spent a couple of days building it, and I felt right about my decision. Sometimes I realize that whenever you’re taking on a decision and you’re not sure, you may get stuck in analysis paralysis. This happens to me too. I’m definitely not immune to these. You might get stuck in like, “Do I want this color, this pattern or this platform?” Now, there are many options that it is overwhelming. You’ve got to give yourself some time to break that pattern, take action and a decision, go with it. If that was not the right one, at least you learned from it. Taking action is important.
With this pattern, I spent three days asking Cody. One thing about me that you might not know, I don’t like to decorate. I don’t like decoration. I don’t like picking colors, which is funny because I spent two years in consulting doing a lot of PowerPoints. They needed to look pretty and visually appealing. That was my least favorite part of building those PowerPoints. I’m more content-driven and creative writing. I do have fun at the same time. I appreciate people’s help because I’m not the best. I feel maybe a limiting belief for me.
I spent 3 or 4 days trying to decide on the pattern, asking Cody what he thought. After the 3rd or 4th day, at the end of that day, I remember at 9:00 PM, I was in analysis paralysis. I was like, “That is it.” I did one, which is the one that I showed and I went with it. I’m like, “I’m done trying to decide and I’m now moving forward. I’m going to take action and I’m going to deal with whatever I get. I’m going to make it work.” That’s what I did.
It’s important to let go of the idea that things aren’t going to be right or perfect the first time. That’s not how life is designed. Life is about learning yourself and discovering whom you are and based on that, being courageous and bold to take decisions based on the information you have gotten. That’s the example that I gave with these, with the website, with Chemical Engineering, my boyfriend changing what he wants to eat. He’s very flexible though. If I say something, he’ll definitely try to accommodate my needs. Be comfortable with pivoting and be comfortable with experimenting because it is only through experimentation and taking action that you’ll get clarity. You’ll gain more confidence. You’ll be more congruent with the direction that you want to take, that you want to walk towards.
It’s important to understand that. A couple of tips that I’ll give you from this episode. The first one is to give yourself some limited time. When you recognize that you’re in analysis paralysis, give yourself some time and tell yourself like I did, “In the next three days, if I don’t arrive at a decision, take one and move forward.” That is feedback for you because we may have some limiting beliefs sometimes around wanting things to be perfect the first time. Let that go. Give yourself some limited time, take the decision and move forward.
The second tip from that decision and that action, learn from it if there was something to learn from it, and apply that learning going forward. I love John Maxwell. He’s a leadership speaker. He has this book called Failing Forward. I told my boyfriend, “That’s something that I got to remind myself more of, failing forward.” If you’re going to fail, why not fall down? Failure is feedback. It’s not failure, only feedback. Try things out, experiment.
The last tip that I’m going to give you is to be consistent with that experimentation, and know that there are a lot of times that things are not going to turn out perfectly how you expect it. Do not give up. Do not try one time. It didn’t turn out as you expected and then you’re like, “I’m done. This is meant that it’s not going to happen.” No, it’s going to happen. Do not give up. Keep moving forward.
I hope this was super helpful. As always, I’ll be ending this episode with a reflection question for all of you. The question is where are you not allowing yourself to experiment? Where are you in analysis paralysis? What’s an area of your life where you’re still analyzing what to do and you haven’t taken a decision yet? I’m going to task you. Give yourself a timeframe. By a certain time, 1 day, 2 days, 3 days, you decided, take that decision. Move forward, get some learnings and continue experimenting. You’re not alone. We’re all going through this journey. The sooner you start, the sooner you’ll also start aligning with your potential. You can even be more empowered to fulfill your passion for your dreams. I’m with you. I’ll see you in the next episode. I hope you enjoyed this one. Have a great day.
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