The Optimal You: How To Be Clear With Your Purpose And Passion With Stacey Vanthuyne

Picture this: you have a great corporate job that pays well and a promising career path ahead of you. However, you still can't fill the hole within you, as if you are longing for genuine purpose and passion. The more you ignore it, the more it grows. What's going on? With such a good position in the capitalist society, why does the desire for something more still lingers?

In this episode, Yanet Borrego is joined by Stacey Vanthuyne, who shares her escape from the corporate world and the start of her entrepreneurial journey. She opens up about how she gained clarity on her life's purpose and learned to pursue her true passions. Tune in now and discover how to emulate Stacey's incredible courage to address that void and start living as your true self every day!

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The Optimal You: How To Be Clear With Your Purpose And Passion With Stacey Vanthuyne

In this episode, I'm honored to have this super special guest, Stacey. She's a creative and passionate individual processing a zest for life. Raising two spirited daughters, she has a very interesting journey because, throughout her corporate career in people leadership and change management, she has always been an advocate for diversity, inclusiveness, and performance excellence. In 2021, she retired from her corporate director role transitioning to entrepreneurship where she now lives her truth every single day inspiring others to do the same as she created her own consulting, coaching, and speaking practice, Raise Your Results. How are you, Stacey?

I'm so well. I’m much better now that I see you. You always bring a smile to my face. Thank you.

Stacey lives in Alberta, Canada. You might be thinking, “How did you two connect with each other?” Stacey reached out to me via Instagram because she was doing this 30-day challenge with a coach every single day. She's also a coach, so she embraces the abundance mindset, which I love about her. We agreed on doing a live together on Instagram, and we connected with each other's energy and then we started that meaningful connection. Thank you so much, Stacey.

It was my pleasure. Thank you. That is so much of who you are. You are always saying yes to the chances and the possibilities and being open to finding the good in them.

I love it because what inspired and empowered me about yourself is this abundance mindset. She's a coach and she was inviting coaches every single day into her platform. That's something you don't see every single day. Kudos to you. How do you get there, having that abundance mindset?

That's been a process. It is letting go of that fear of not being good enough and that fear of lack. It was prevalent growing up for me, and I've always been a competitive person. Sports has been a big part of my life, so I believe there's a place for competition, but I've also been a big competitor with myself. I was trying to push myself all the time to become better.

When it came to inviting other coaches into the platform, it was like, “If we're here to teach, support, and guide people in finding and uncovering their true purpose and passion. If that's my greatest intention, then I have to recognize that not everybody and I are going to be on the same energetic wavelength. If my role in helping them uncover is introducing them to somebody that is, then that's fulfillment to me.

That is so powerful because I've gone through that journey myself. There are people that don't have in their podcast another person that does similar things as them. I've realized the same thing that you said. If they connect more with that person, why not? It's in their best interest. Why would I be limiting them from connecting with a person that may be in alignment with them? You're the total embodiment of that. I wanted to recognize that since the beginning.

I want to recognize it back with you because you are one of my few guests that did even acknowledge that and that was so you and that's probably why we continue to discuss it to this moment and have the success that we are. It’s because the more we can give, the more we can get. I believe in universal laws. I study them and another big difference in coaches is who does the work day in and day out and studying.

Also, recognize that every day is an opportunity to discover more, not only about the world around us but inside. We are both on this continuous evolution of becoming more each and every day. That's so exciting. Hopefully, it’s inspiring people to come with us. I've been saying, “If it doesn't bring you inspiration, bringing more abundance or more pleasure in your life, then examine why you're doing it, and maybe it doesn't need to be in your life anymore.

If it doesn't bring you inspiration, abundance, or pleasure, examine why you're doing it. Maybe you don't need it in your life anymore.

I read that in your intro and I have a question for you coming up, but first, we want to know more about Stacey. Who are you, where were you born, and what has been your journey?

I’m old so it's going to take a long time to get there. I could have this answer down the path, but I like to wing at times. I was blessed. I have incredible and supportive parents. They always have been. I grew up in the province next to me. I'm Canadian through and through. I've lived across Canada. I've lived in India and different countries for a short time with work, but I'm Canadian-bred. I've been so blessed to experience so many positive things.

I don't have a background. I’m going to tell you that. I was abused or I've smoked drugs and I've abused alcohol probably to the point where I don't use it as much anymore and have these outside addictions, but not ever to a point where that was a defining moment that I hit this bottom and said, “I got to do something different from here.”

My journey was one that can resonate with a lot of people around me. I grew up middle-class. We were from a Catholic family so it was always important to go to church. I always believed in something higher than myself, and I'm thankful for my Catholic upbringing to the point that I'm not sure if I would've ever had that spiritual connection like I do now without going but that being said, that also limited some of my beliefs in how to live our lives.

I always wanted to be a mom. I knew I wanted to be a mom. I knew I wanted to go to university, get these check marks, and have a six-figure earning salary that I could save for my retirement and for my girls' schooling. I felt that as long as I could live and provide life for my children as I was providing for myself, it would be a dream and I did that. At about 40 years old, I woke up and I wasn't in love with my life.

I couldn't put my finger on what was missing. I had great friends and family. I had a great job. I wasn't at the time in love with my husband, though. There was an opportune there, but again, I was afraid of admitting that. What I've come to realize is that everything that I had dreamt was possible, I achieved but then I stopped dreaming. I started getting busy with things that weren't adding a ton of value to my life.

However, because it was just so normal and everybody else was doing it, to think that it was wrong or that it can be improved on, I wasn't even aware of as much. My real spiritual healing and mindset journey happened at that time with my husband and I weren't connecting as we could, and I would try to talk into it, but it didn't ever seem like we were hitting. I shared my story openly. It went on for years, and I remember thinking, “I'm only 40. I can't not be having sex. I'm a touchy person. We got to be doing these things and we weren't.”

Instead of finding the strength and courage within myself and having that confidence that I wasn't happy and I didn't want this anymore, I looked for that happiness outside of myself and I had an affair. I spoke to a lady and she said, “I also have found an emotional connection outside my relationship, but I didn't have sex with him.” To me, when I had my affair, it was the emotional connection that was far more intimate than any physical action.

I didn't have to sleep with this person to have not been present in my existing relationship. I never truly regret that choice. I had to find that outside of myself in that way because it made me feel alive again. It made me feel more than a mom, more than a person at work, more than this wife that I had to take care of all the bills and everything. It allowed me to open up.

Why I share this and why I think it's so important for people to realize is that it didn't have to be that way. I didn't have to then have the shame, the guilt, and the lies that also came along with it. I would've stood in my truth and shared with my partner that, “Right now, we're not in resonance. We're going different ways. We both want what's best for each other and for our children, and let's be honest, it's not with each other,” and just embrace that.

I found that through the mindset journey that's a gap in our self-worth and esteem. That's what I had. I'm glad it woke me up to having that affair. I did that to put me on this journey, to realize that happiness is a choice within, and I'm deserving of that. I share this story with others so that they can learn. You can find that within and it's not outside yourself. I don't know where I ran with that totally. It wasn’t a very interesting story but being vulnerable and open about it started my journey.

If at the time somebody had told me that I lacked confidence, I wouldn't have believed them. I would've told them they were wrong. In my mind, I didn't. I still love myself and I was doing well with the things that we thought we'd get check marks for but I didn't realize how much it's an inside journey. For the life I was living, I didn't lack confidence, but I didn't love my life. I wanted more. That's where the gap was. I just focused on that.

What I love the most about that example is that many people prefer to ignore a situation or run away from the situation rather than face it and have those difficult conversations that will feel so uncomfortable. Based on your journey, do you think that was based on that self-worth and that confidence? What do you think prevented you from having that upfront conversation?

In this case with your husband, but many people face it with their friends or their family. They don't start with their own truth, as you said. What do you think prevented you from that? What have you learned that you're doing differently now and you are like, “This is my truth. I'm going to speak it up. Let's go?”

I've done so many things for these check marks. That's the other piece of it. What also opened my eyes is somebody saying to me, “What is your dream?” I instantly went into sharing how I hope my kids will be productive members of society and that I want to get them into a school and these types of things. They're like, “That's a great dream for your kids, but what about you?” It was at that moment that I was like, “I don't know.”

There was nothing big. My next big thing was to save for my retirement, but I already knew the how. I was doing that. That's what woke me up to figure out, “The reason I've achieved success now is that this was part of my dream,” but I didn't allow myself to continue dreaming because I didn't realize the power of our imagination, having that goal, and being spiritual beings. I was always looking for that flow and their expansion growth and I became stagnant.

What stopped me from having more was the fear then that I had been conditioned around, “What will other people think? You have the stuff that everybody wants. How selfish of you to want more?” That was my lack of mindset and then I was like, “That's not selfish. Selfish is not showing the world all the gifts that are still waiting to be unwrapped within me. Selfish is me lessening myself to let other people shine versus trying to challenge them to bring out their best self.”

I'm done with trying to like a shadow down so that other people can shine brighter. That's not my role. I want to shine brighter to inspire them to come. It was fear of what other people will think, fear of feeling ultimately but it wasn't realizing those fears and thinking through them to say, “You've never let yourself down in the past. Why would this be any different? Why not follow your heart and do something?”

That's when I made the decision to find that happiness. Although I'm at this middle-life age, there was no society. I was at the top of my mountain and I was going down. Also, my purpose came. I uncovered that I was like, “It's my purpose to help other people that are my age who have achieved a certain level of success but still aren't understanding why they can't.” It's not that we're not happy, but we're not in love again, inspired, and excited to wake up in the morning. That's because we've lost sight of what's most important to us so let's rediscover that and use this age as a platform to soar.

There are many people disengaged from life. They wake up, and they do what they're supposed to do, but they're not engaged. They don't have that fire and that's why I love that our business is to let people, to guide people and ignite that fire within them, which they have already. It's only dormant at times. That had happened to you, which is awesome.

That is a journey. I didn't wake up and like, “Here we go.” You said ignite, and I love that ignite. Even in my own journey, at first, I thought, “We're evolving. It's that evolution and becoming.” I felt like it was unlocking and unleashing this inner beast that we have. We're almost afraid of him or her sometimes because we don't know what's going to happen but it was in a study. You fall more in love with the vision of your future versus the memories of the past.

The only limits we have are the ones we place on ourselves. That's scary sometimes to admit, but then it's unlocking and unleashing. It's also uncovering, especially with your show. Sometimes it's almost like people are like, “I got to find my purpose.” I believe we're born with our purpose. It's that uncovering and allowing yourself to be vulnerable. With my stories, even around getting on my relationships and things like that, I never gave myself a chance to be vulnerable because I almost looked at it as a sign of weakness and I'd always carried on.

The only limits we have are the ones we place on ourselves.

I've been told I'm strong. I know I'm strong. I'm determined. I have these little goals. I never had goals bigger than what I knew I could do. My point in sharing that is that I think a big part of uncovering our purpose and living with clarity is recognizing the power of being vulnerable. There is no courage or strength unless we're willing to open up and until we are willing to admit where we are, no matter where our goals are, we won't get to them because we need to have a starting point.

My starting point was, “I didn't end my marriage the way I had thought it would.” In fact, it ended and that wasn't a goal but now that I have, what is this message in this mess? How can I use this to inspire others and even myself, my kids, and even my partner? We are closer friends now than we ever were when we were together because we had those difficult conversations but who said they had to be difficult?

We made it difficult in our minds even before it happens, and therefore we show up that way. We have these preconceived notions.

We almost trick ourselves. I remember tricking myself to be like, “It's easier. He'll accept it better if he doesn't know the truth.” That’s so crazy but you can build that story also. I love what you and I both do because, for the most part, we live more in fear in our minds than it would even happen, and yet we know what we think becomes our reality. It's so important to become aware of those unconscious thoughts so that we can find them and create the result that we want. It's only a matter of switching the thoughts and the feelings.

We have said it over and over. What you focus on, you experience. Consciously, you can focus on a big piece of information out of the whole picture. When you focus on fear, then you're looking for it and your mind is a mega computer. If you're focusing on it, let’s find that fear. It's laser-focused. When you focus on what you want, then you start finding those opportunities, that hope, those people, and those connections.

Fear of uncertainty is also a big fear. You know when you said about dreaming, I'm with you. I'm like, “You got to have a North Star in your life,” because, in the worst days of your life, the only hope you have is the hope of a better tomorrow. Tomorrow might be better or the next second might be better. That North Star is the direction that creates momentum for you to continue moving forward. In that North Star, faith is necessary. It’s faith that things are going to happen for you because there are no guarantees. There is no certainty.

You are only operating on certainty, which by the way is the present moment because in the present moment you don't know what's going to happen next. You're only there in the creation zone. I ask my clients all the time to create their ideal avatars. I ask them, “Let's dream big because this is your North Star. Shoot for the moon and you’ll land in the stars. Let's dream big.” Many of them dream. When was the last time I gave permission myself to dream? There is also this fear of uncertainty and of thinking big, as you said, because then if we have this vision, we are afraid that we may be failing or we may succeed. You have both.

It's like that quote. Faith and fear both require you to believe the invisible. What are you going to do? We've been so conditioned at times and we accept it. I would take radical responsibility for my thoughts, but it's easier to live in fear. As you said, more of that will show up in your life, and yet, the best way to predict our future is to create it from the unknown.

It's in that unknown moment that all possibilities exist. It's so important to reiterate to people that if you want something, lock into that desire to make it big enough to be your North Star if it wasn't meant for you. We're not putting things in our hearts that aren't meant for ourselves. If you are achieving it, then that is the time to ask yourself like, “Is this still important to me? Is this a desire? Am I locked in? Does it excite me? When I wake up in the morning, is that what I'm thinking? When I go to sleep, is that what I'm thinking of?”

I 100% agree with you about the dream. We ask people all the time, “What do you want?” I can’t answer that. That's why we're so aligned in our coaching and in our message sharing. If you can't answer, that's why you feel stuck because our wants are the baseline for our goals and our desires. When we want more, that's the essence of our spirit. It's for continuous expansion and growth.

When people ask me that in the past, I believe that I felt a layer of guilt for it because, potentially, I would grow up having people say to me, “You're luckier than most.” That's not luck, first of all. Also, just because I want more doesn't mean that I'm not grateful for what I have. Being grateful and having faith are the foundations of it and then that allows you to walk into the abundant mindset, which allows you to start to expand what is it that I want.

Saying that someone is lucky is not recognizing that limited potential within you, and it's using that as an excuse to not pursue what you're meant to. You're not lucky. You have worked for it. You have been focused. You are like me. We are personal development junkies. We practice what we coach. It is so important for a coach to have that integrity of, “I show up the way I also ask you to show up.”

We study every day, we do the work, and we're human. Are there days that doubt or fear creeps in? 100%, but it's shortening the refraction period. It's recognizing it quickly so that it doesn't become something that sticks with me all day, brings down my energy vibes, and then I can attract more of that into my life because I love what you said. Where we place our focus is where our energy goes. Whatever you want to find, you're going to find them.

Where you place your focus is where your energy goes.

A lot of people and you probably have heard it too. When I first went on my personal development journey and invested significantly in myself to work with Bob Proctor, I remember thinking, “Is this even real? Is this going to help me?” I was like, “You can find both.” Again, when you go back to universal laws, there's good and bad in everything. What you will look for, you will find.

If I wanted to believe that it was full of crap, it would be. How was that going to help me? I then started, what would help me? What would the belief I would have to have? What would be the self-image I need to incorporate to move me in the direction of where I want to go? What would happen if I started to have more faith in that than the fear of it not happening? That's where things just changed.

I love that so much, and I always tell my coaching clients, “We have fear.” I have fear every time I do something new. Every time I'm launching something new in my business or doing something new or have a challenge, I have fear and what I tell my coaching clients is to learn to expect that fear there. To not create resistance but to be like, “Fear, you're here. That means I'm on the right track.” As long as that is aligned with you, it's going to be there anyway. The important part is to move forward and take action.

What is so important when we say around that fear is that that's when you know you're growing. As you said, it's right on the right track because if you aren't experiencing that fear, then we're doing things that are in alignment with our current sense of thinking and logic. When we think about that, then that means that we're going to continue to get the same results as we have in the past.

If we want more, we've got to get to that place where it's unknown. You're stepping up, but you're stepping with the confidence in knowing that you can in integrating that behavior into your faith, into your belief, in yourself, in the possibilities, and the knowing. If you can see it on the screen of your mind, then it's already here.

We manifest every day, whether we're conscious of it or not but most times, I find people are thinking more of what they don't want than what they do want and that's why more of that happens and comes into their lives. It's so important to gain that clarity of what it is that you want and only allow yourself to think of that. For me on my journey, that has been the key. It is gaining that clarity of what you want. As you said, it’s allowing yourself to start to dream again and, in there, getting excited.

Everything started with your relationship when you realize, “I need to speak my truth. I need to walk in alignment.” What other big milestones happened after that?

Again, there are no coincidences. My path crossed with Bob Proctor. If anyone doesn't know him, I highly suggest you go look. If you watch The Secret, he is one of the foremost thought leaders and wealth builders in the world. It was interesting because I was listening to stuff. I'm like, “I have to work with this man.” I call and they're like, “It's $30,000 US and I'm in Canadian. “I was like, “That's $40,000. Are you crazy?” That was my thinking at that time. “There's no way.”

That's when I sat back and said, “Stacey, we know.” If we allow ourselves to admit and get over that fear, I knew there was more. I preoccupied myself with mundane things that weren't bringing me the fulfillment that I wanted. I said, “Yes,” and I didn't know how the money would be there. I took this leap of faith and Bob would always say, “You don't have the money now because you don't need it. You don't need it until you make the decision.”

Sure enough, you start living on a higher vibe. You start living on this other thing and then more opportunities come in to earn it back. A big milestone for me was making the decision to invest in myself like that and to take this chance. I thought to myself, “I'll give myself five years.” I was 45 at the time and I thought, “By the time I'm 50, then I'll be able to leave the corporate world.”

Honestly, within a year and a half, it’s in the belief and study that this is where my heart is. I started to feel in the corporate world like I did in my marriage. I'm not showing up as my best self. I do love it this way, but I want to be in consulting and helping other leaders and companies to build their people versus executing and how I was. That was also a milestone in even recognizing that feeling and choosing to do it differently. I was like, “It's time now.”

You're never ready. What's so important is that if we consistently wait for the time to be right, it won't be because time is the same as money. It won't be until you make a decision that you're going to go and then we create it but those were the big ones. Seeing my girls create their own dreams and live their own lives, they've been around the material for a few years as well, it's exciting.

Before they go to school, my one daughter was only getting Cs. I said, “Honey, what do you want to get?” She said, “I want to get these As and the Bs,” and no word of a lie. She started to journal about it, write it down, and see herself. She started to do more things that would result in that. She finished with As and Bs. It’s all of those things.

There is nothing specific, but that's what it has to be now. It’s realizing that it's not these big a-ha moments. It's these little consistent things that have an interest that equate. I was in Mexico. I would've never thought of going on a vacation by myself to Mexico and having that time. Yet here I am, and knowing that's what brought me inspiration and fun right now, I went and did it. It was amazing.

I love that so much and I feel that sometimes we also have that fear of committing to ourselves. People have this fear, and I used to have it too around commitment. Your commitment to your dream and your growth because whenever you put it out there, then it means that you got to follow through. It's outside of your comfort zone and the thermostat always wants to bring you back to the temperature where you are comfortable.

I love that you took that commitment because here's the thing. When you break through and you embrace that new identity of yourself, now you are thinking, behaving, and feeling differently. The old Stacey is gone. I'm not surprised that you didn't wait five years. You're like, “I'm ready. I'm aligned. Let's do this.”

The thing is that you glow and you show up differently. I saw this picture of me and as I said, I love saying, “You don't have to have a breakdown to have a breakthrough.” I didn't articulate it well when I was saying my story as well as I could have, but it was that. I didn't have to fall down before I realized that we want more, but that's the challenge with people.

When people hit rock bottom, they'll have one way to go but up, but when we're comfortable, it's dangerous because we can live comfortably forever in fear of that falling, but never realizing our potential and living fully. That's where I say, “We can choose to change in a state of suffering or pain or one of joy and inspiration, and why wait for that diagnosis? Why wait until your relationships break down until you become somebody that you aren't but you did that behavior? I'm not a cheater or a liar, but I cheated and I lied.

I had to them go over and get past the shame and the guilt that came around with that, where again, decide that you are worthy and you are worthy because you are. With most things especially as I went down the layering, at first, I thought, “I don't do that because I'm a procrastinator because I'm a shiny ball.” Those were true too, but those were the layers that had come. It came down to, “Do I feel I'm worthy of all I desire?” If I say yes, then that fear dissipates because then I know that whatever is meant to be will be and you believe from that place.

I encourage people that if you're not waking up inspired and it is every day because you reconnect to that purpose and the thing that says, “I'm showing up for the best of me, which makes me a better mom, a better partner, a better boss or employer, a better sister, a better daughter,” or whatever it is that is important to you, but you can't give what you don't have.

I love that in your intro. You say, “I believe that if it doesn't bring you inspiration, wealth, or pleasure, get it out of your life. Unlock and unleash your truth. Live in integrity.” I love that so much of you, and I think you embody them completely. I agree with not waiting until you hit a crisis to make a change. It’s the same thing with you. I liked my corporate job.

I like the environment and the people and it was a decision that I wanted to embrace my potential and move towards a bigger aspiration that I've had for years and years to come. Just like you, I also had a breaking point a few years back when I hit a crisis and then I started changing and I made a promise to myself that no more. That was not going to happen again. I love that we have those commonalities too.

You're so right about it and you said about it before. I want to touch back onto it. The equation is simple. You make a decision about what you want and you decide to take action. The challenge is staying persistent, committed, and dedicated. Just because you become aware doesn't mean that all of a sudden, the gates are open and all of your desires are presented on a gold platter.

You will incur obstacles and challenges. There will be dips and questions, but it's remaining persistent, dedicated, and committed to yourself and to your goal that you are worthy of it. That's where we expand and we grow. What we come to realize is that these goals are nice at the end of the day to get things, but it's not the real gift.

The gift is whom you're becoming in that journey. That's what's so exciting and I do now love to talk about pleasure. I very rarely speak to a woman and I'm sure you're similar. It's almost like we are raised that we're there to make sure everybody is happy and that our happiness comes from others. There's a degree of it that is true but if we don't realize that happiness first needs to come from ourselves, then when times are challenging and maybe we're not connecting with our partners or stuff, we start to blame.

That's what causes friction between partners, especially when you've been with them for a long time because you're used to them bringing them happiness and all of a sudden, you're not. You're like, “I don't know. It's not for me. I'd rather spend time with my girlfriends. I'd rather have a glass of wine. I'd rather do this or go shopping.” Mine was shopping. However, it's important to realize that it's not your partner's or your friend's job to make you happy. It's yours. We can only do that when we get back in touch with ourselves.

I love talking about that mind, body, and spirit connection and trying to find that pleasure, not just on an emotional or spiritual level, but on a physical level and being comfortable with yourself. It’s because if we can't bring our pleasure to ourselves, and I mean from the bedroom to the boardroom, then there is a gap in our confidence. There are many strong and independent women that are great when it comes to the corporate world and they're living their truth, but when they come back to the bedroom, they're afraid to share what it is that they want.

That's one of my main missions too. It is helping women to be able to take that confidence from the bedroom to the boardroom so that we can speak our truths and realize that was conditioning that was done when we were young. I grew up thinking that it was wrong to please or pleasure myself, so then, I'm not experiencing that type of physical pleasure until I'm with my first partner, let's say. However, my partner has never been told how to pleasure a woman, and he touches me the same way that he touches himself.

Instantly from that moment, I say to him, “As long as you're happy, I'm good.” Right away, our self-esteem and self-worth are put on the back burner. It's important that we start having these conversations around pleasuring ourselves and talking with our kids so that those emotional impacts of being intimate with the person the 1st or 2nd time that stick with us show our feelings of pleasure in the bedroom are as important and we can start to speak our truth in all areas.

I feel like we need to have another episode around pleasure only because I feel this is a very deep topic.

I would love to. I should have maybe gotten into it a little also because it is important. I don't even think that we're aware of how much that's impacting us. I talk about it because I'm out there dating and I meet and feel men. It's so important for women to embrace too because men have that same type of complex because they're used to being the ones in the bedroom now that do get that pleasure.

Now, when they don't, for whatever reason, because maybe they have passed stuff that's in their minds or they're just not in the mood that day or whatever. It's become more of a mental game as we age too, that the woman, all of a sudden again, feels insecure because she's based her worthiness in the bedroom on whether or not her partner is satisfied.

That is so incredible. That's genius. I need to bring you back and let's talk all pleasure.

You can't separate the mind from the body and you know exactly that. Yanet, you are doing an incredible job out there sharing these messages around clarity and purpose, and I thank you even for giving me the opportunity to share a little bit about mine.

Thank you so much, Stacey. I've enjoyed this conversation so much and I feel that every time I talk to you, I learn so much. You are such a light in this universe. I appreciate you. As we conclude, I'm going to give a rapid-fire question to you. Tell me the first answer that comes to mind. What's your favorite book?

My favorite book is Outwitting The Devil.

I haven't heard of that one.

You'll have to read it. Think and Grow Rich was ultimately by Napoleon Hill, but a few years after Napoleon Hill wrote Think and Grow Rich, he wrote Outwitting The Devil, but they never published it until 2011. I highly recommend you read it.

Who is your biggest role model?

My dad. He loves without expectation.

It’s selfless love. What's the most important piece of advice you would give to your younger self?

Never stop dreaming.

That's such a powerful phrase to conclude this interview. I love your journey and your mission and vision. I'm sure our readers are inspired by your story and everything else. Where can they find you?

By all means, please reach out. I'm on Instagram @StaceyVanthuyne and Raise Your Results. On Facebook, you can find me at Stacey Vanthuyne and my website is RaiseYourResults.ca. You can find us there. Thank you so much for sharing.

Stacey, I appreciate you. I'm pleased. To the readers, thank you for tuning in. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with your friends and family. We are here to serve, and that's our main focus. Thank you so much Stacey, and thank you, everyone.

Much love.

Important Links

• Outwitting The Devil
• Think and Grow Rich
• @StaceyVanthuyne – Instagram
• Raise Your Results - Instagram
• Stacey Vanthuyne - Facebook
• RaiseYourResults.ca
• https://Calendly.com/yanetbcoaching/clarity-call
• Clarity Booster - 3 Questions Framework (ybcoaching.com
• https://www.YBCoaching.com/wellness5minsroutine
• https://www.Facebook.com/yanetbcoachinghttps://www.instagram.com/yanetbcoaching/
• https://www.Instagram.com/yanetbcoaching/
• https://www.LinkedIn.com/company/yanet-borrego-coaching/?viewAsMember=true
• https://www.YouTube.com/channel/UCqxL829o0Vk-QdY12F-GgMw
• Bob Proctor

About Stacey Vanthuyne

Stacey is a creative and passionate individual possessing a zest for life, raising two spirited daughters. She is open to new adventures and has a burning desire to help guide people and businesses around the world to achieve more pleasure and in doing so experience more fulfillment and live limitlessly.

Throughout her corporate career in people leadership and change management, Stacey has always been an advocate for diversity, inclusiveness and performance excellence. In the past year, she retired from her corporate director role, transitioning to entrepreneurship where she now lives her truth each day, inspiring others to do the same as she created her own consulting, coaching and speaking practice, Raise your Results.

She believes if it doesn't bring you inspiration, wealth or pleasure, get it out of your life! Unlock and Unleash your truth!